While we like to think that we live in a more accepting day and age, there are many ignorant people out there. Some of those unaware people might not know that they are ignorant. So I thought I would share some no appropriate questions to ask people under the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer community. Some of these you would consider common sense, but you would also be common sense for people to know how to wear a mask, but that’s an article for a different day.
Is this because you all are snowflakes?
No, this isn’t because LGBTQ is snowflakes or sensitive. It’s just that many people ask questions that are invasive or come across as you trying to devalue someone. It’s okay to have questions and to try to understand them. You have to understand you might not ask some of your questions because they are invasive, following stereotypes, or just something you shouldn’t ask anyone. Keep in mind: These are just general things to avoid. Each person will be different; some people might not care if you ask these questions. Here’s the actual questions:
WHAT PARTS DO YOU HAVE?
Again, you would think that this would be common sense, but we wouldn’t need this article. So asking a transgender person what genitals they have is like asking how big someone’s penis is or details about someone’s vagina. You don’t do this. While I’m not transgender, I know I would like someone asking that of me. Unless you are super close to that person, I would assume like you are about to bang, you really shouldn’t care about whether someone should have a vagina or a penis
HOW DO YOU KNOW?
Before you ask this, I would ask yourself, “How did you know?” So if you are straight, “How did you know that you were Heterosexual?” I’ll give you a moment to ponder that. Did you ponder it? Does it seem like a stupid question? Because it is. If you ask, “when did you realize…,” that is a little more of a better question. Just like heterosexuals, LGBTQ is born the way they are. Lady Gaga didn’t write a song called “Born This Way” to be cute. It’s true. You are born that way at birth, but you might not realize it until down the road. Everyone is going to be different with this. Granted, “When did you realize…” is still a super personal question that I wouldn’t say right off the bat.
BUT AREN’T YOU REALLY JUST GAY?
This question is mainly for the Bisexuals out there! Let’s say this together: BISEXUALS.ARE.A.LEGITMATELY.ORIENTATION. There’s also a reason it’s called LGBTQ and not LGTQ. Besides, it rolls off the tongue better like both genders are legitimately and need to be more respectful than it should. There’s so much biphobia in the world, and frankly, it’s unneeded. Just because you have been with the same gender doesn’t make it any less valid that you might find them attractive along with the opposite gender. It’s like assuming that bisexuals are going to cheat on you because they like both genders.
Are you sure? You don’t look or sound gay
Please explain to me what looking or sounding gay is. I didn’t know that a sexual orientation looked or say a certain way. I’m afraid that’s not right in so many ways. You can’t go off stereotypes presented in the media. Stereotypes are mistaken ideas or beliefs that many people have about a thing or group based upon how they look on the outside, which may be untrue or only partly true. While homosexual males might like Celine Dion, Cher, etc. They aren’t necessarily extraordinarily flamboyant and wearing pink bows while waving a rainbow on the street. They are shirtless and wearing sex harness that shows off their abs while in their underwear. It’s called pride wear. It’s like the old saying goes, “you can’t judge a book by its cover.” So please stop judging people based on outdated stereotypes. It’s not classy. Here’s my tale about it.
I hope these inappropriate questions get the ball rolling on thinking before you speak. Like I mentioned prior, responses can vary on the person. I just generalized everyone like how most people generalized the LGBTQ community for years. Please think, “how would I respond to this” before you ask something. That would help a lot of our world issues if we did that more.